Traumatic Incidents

By Donnie McKinney c 2005

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Most of us humans have no idea what drives our brains. Sometimes those things that drive us are repressed emotions and intentions from traumatic experiences earlier in life. During a traumatic experience, there are so many powerful emotions being created and even "intentions" being formed that our minds cannot process them all at the same time. It would destroy us.

To "save" us the human mind "shuts down" to keep us from being overwhelmed by what is happening around us and the emotions and itentions it is causing. It's good that our minds shut down to save us at the time of the incident, but what is insiduous is the way that the traumatic memories, emotions and intentions are stored and recalled or "triggered" later in life and drive us to do things we don't even understand.

For instance, during an incident in the past; such as, molestation, rape, military battles, a bad storm or any other traumatic experience, we may experience rage, fear, helplessness, guilt, or any number of emotions. We may also make a decision (intention) to never let something like that happen to us again. We may even "intend" to kill the person responsible, for instance. But, those feelings and intentions are repressed and we do not consciously think them in the present. They are happening during the incident, but they are repressed in our subconscous mind.

The human mind works by association. It accesses past "data" just like a computer's RAM (random access memory). You think something and it "associates" with something else by links. That "link" or memory associates with something else. Reprressed memories are retrieved from the subconscious memory banks just like any other memory. At any moment in the future, a sight, sound, smell, feel or taste in the present moment can "trigger" the repressed emotion or intention.

For instance, someone who was molested as a child, but repressed the rage he or she felt at the time might be close to someone who knocked over her milk and spilled it. At the same moment a sound is heard that is associated with the brain to the  traumatic experience of the molestation. The person goes into a rage. No one understands why he got so furious over a glass of spilled milke. But, it isn't the spilled milk that is the problem. Spilling a glass of milk doesn't really matter much in the overall scheme of things. Rather, it is the repressed emotion coming out as undirected rage. That rage is driving us in the present moment, and we don't even know it is happening.

Most males who have been molested by males, for instance, have reported that they just "feel like they want to kill somebody" at times. They don't have anyone in mind, and don't really intend to do it, but they feel that way without knowing why.

Some repressed emotions and intentions are serious. Some are less serious. Traumatic Incidence Reduction is an effective method for clearing the emotions and intentions of traumatic experiences.

Donnie is trained in Traumatic Incidence Reduction by TIRA (Tramatic Incidence Reduction Association) to help people who have experienced traumatic incidences in their live clear the "charge" from the resulting repressed emotions and intentions. Read about TIR to see how this highly-effective technique works.

TIR Home Page

For an example of how this technique works, read this real-life example about Kim's experience (used with her permission, of course).

Read a Real-life Personal Experience

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